The official start of spring is this week (March 20), but you could probably feel it in the air, even if you did not notice it on your calendar. As the natural world’s time of transformation, spring offers people an opportunity for personal renewal. If you find you are stagnating, individual counseling can help get you back into a cycle of positive growth.
In nature, we can tell plants and animals are healthy when we observe them change; often these changes take place in sync with seasons. In spring, wild herds and flocks welcome babies and begin moving toward cooler climate zones. Saplings sprout, and adult plants and trees blossom with flowers. Waterways swell with winter melt.
Although our growth does not necessarily follow the seasons, healthy humans can also be recognized by their tendency to change in various ways. As we mature emotionally, for instance, we become less selfish. This prepares us for fruitful relationships such as marriage and parenting.
Stagnation can be a sign that something is wrong. You have probably, at some point in your life, felt uneasy, like you are trapped in a stuffy room, mentally and emotionally speaking. Going too long without experiencing any growth can cause people to feel anxious, angry or depressed. It is your psyche’s way of telling you to open the windows and let some fresh air in.
This is a good time to check in with yourself and see if you are making positive changes. Think about new activities you have engaged in, new friends you have made – even small things like reading thought-provoking books and having lively conversations can be signs of growth. If you are at a loss for such examples and you feel discontent, it may be time for some spring cleaning.
Knowing how and what to change is not always easy – and following through on desired changes can be even more difficult. Frequently, we get accustomed or attached to activities, people and possessions that are no longer serving us. We cannot see that they are holding us back from our desired path.
If you believe you are stagnating, but do not quite know what to do about it, counseling can help. Your counselor can offer tools to identify things in your life that you have grown out of, and set goals that are more in line with where you want to be. Hypnotherapy can also be a great aide for seeing beyond blockages such as fear and insecurity.
As the winter thaws and the days grow warmer, do not miss Mother Nature’s invitation to a lighter you. Get back on the track of growth, and face summer with a renewed sense of purpose.